I am Beautiful

Last Friday, when I was still in the hospital, I spent a lot of time just browsing through the WordPress Reader on my phone. While reading, liking, commenting and looking for new blogs, a photo of Lupita Nyong’o showed up. She was on the cover of People magazine as she was named #1 in the 50 Most Beautiful list. I like her so I clicked the article right away. It was posted by Jane Lorraine on her blog Honoring our HAIRitage. These words from her post struck me:

Magazine covers and other major media outlets play a huge role in influencing how we all think about beauty and what beauty looks like.  Traditionally, those same major media outlets have not recognized African American women’s beauty.  My hope is that People magazine continues to recognize women of color for their beauty, talents & compassion and use their massive platform to contribute to redefining beauty standards.

On my way home from Manila, I saw this large billboard…


Photo from pinoymanila.com

I felt embarrassed and guilty at the same time. I felt embarrassed because these kinds of soap are very common in the Philippines which means a lot of Filipinas want whiter skin. I felt guilty because I’m using one (not the same product though. Haha). It’s not that I’m not satisfied with my color. People just say I’m getting “prettier” when the soap has kinda taken effect… but what really is the standard of beauty?

I've been keeping this since last year because I think it's funny. That guy was running for councilor and I'm still thinking 'til now why he chose Glutathione soap as his campaign giveaway.

I’ve been keeping this since last year because I think it’s funny. That guy was running for councilor and I’m still thinking ’til now why he chose Glutathione soap as his campaign giveaway.

My skin color is not even on my short list of insecurities which includes:

  1. My weight. I don’t really wanna be skinny but sometimes, I want to experience not being chubby.
  2. My “double-chin”. I feel like my face is bigger than my body.
  3. My hair. I always have it rebonded or relaxed because if I haven’t for a long time, it would look like I didn’t comb it. I would rather have sexy curls. Hihi.

It’s actually unreasonable to complain about these things but I dunno why I still do sometimes. Maybe it’s the media? Where you see more attractive showbiz personalities than talented ones? Maybe it’s the people around me? Well, I don’t think so… I even have a gorgeous boyfriend who makes me feel I’m prettier than celebrities. *kilig*

I came across another blog, JackieBeeStrong and saw a post entitled FEAR. I don’t have a problem with the people around me like I said but it reminded me of how I was when I was younger… I also felt I looked like a man or I should lose a little weight because lead singers are supposed to be hot.  Why do girls feel unpretty? Back to the question, what is the standard of beauty?

These blog posts helped me uncover and perceive the real meaning of beauty. It’s how you love and carry yourself. It’s your uniqueness and how you make the most of it. It’s your character. Its your smile… and I’m pretty sure you can add more on this list.

Megan YoungHer name is Megan Young, Miss World 2013, who represented the Philippines. She’s half-American but she got the Filipina skin. I just posted her picture because I want to brag about her. Haha. And like her, I am beautiful… and so are YOU (even if you’re a man. Real man.)!


>>>>This is my response to Blogging 101, Day Twelve: Be Inspired by the Community. Please have a look on the blogs that have given me the inspiration to write this! Thank you. 🙂
>>>Daily Prompt: Absolute Beauty


28 thoughts on “I am Beautiful

  1. Jane Lorraine says:

    Hi Wax! Thank you for linking to my blog post about Lupita! I’m glad that it inspired you and you wrote a post to express yourself (big smile)! Keep up the great work with your blog.


  2. faycrisanto says:

    That’s why I’m grateful for celebrities like Queen Latifah, who, to me, is one of the most beautiful women in the world. It’s all about the confidence and sexiness she exudes. But she did say that she got it from the constant validation her parents gave her.


    • wantaps says:

      I agree! She’s so sexy! Having good people around will really help to build our confidence… But if they are mean, we should not lose our confidence…


  3. jackiebeestrong says:

    First off, Thank you for mentioning my blog. I can’t tell you how happy it makes me that people read it and get anything out of it. Secondly, You’re beautiful and so is your skin and more importantly so is your heart!


  4. Jen says:

    I love this! We are usually the target market for skin whitening products since, being the color-ed, we have a tendency to admire women with fair complexion. It’s quite tiring to always not have the best “white” skin. 🙂 It’s not also in my top 5 list of what I want to improve in myself.



      • Jules says:

        Hello Beautiful,
        I was reading this post off my phone yesterday and wanted to comment but then my battery died so I made a mental note to stop by today and share my thoughts. I have lived in Asia and although I have never had the perception that fairer women are more beautiful, I know exactly what you are talking about because I’ve witness this craze on adverts and commercials on Asian TV. I’ve always been appalled at it all and after searching and questioning, I understood that this “fair being beautiful” perception comes from the colonial times. Many Asian countries were colonised and the perception of the “white man” being masters and higher was created. In order to be more like them and be in positions of power, the mimicking begun. Aside from this, the grass is always greener. In many Western countries, the idea of you being ghostly white means that you aren’t healthy. They spend a lot of time tanning on the beach and if they don’t have that, then they use sunbeds or spray tans as a solution.

        I am so glad that you wrote about this because although you may have been deluded into the idea of fairness being beautiful due to your society and influences, the very fact that you have questioned it and that you are reflecting means that you have stepped out of the box and are thinking laterally which in my experience allows for so much growth. I hope you infect all your friends and family with this thought process and not by forcing it down on them because you think its the better way but more from just being the beautiful confident you that I can see from way over here, through your posts and writing.

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      • wantaps says:

        Wow! Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I agree with you. The Philippines was colonized by Spaniards and Americans so we still have that hint of colonial mentality. I think, at this time, beauty is now slowly being redefined and that is good. 🙂

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  5. riz says:

    oh wow. thank you for putting these thoughts on WordPress (i was gonna say on paper…hihi). Since last year, a friend and I have been on a discussion about beauty, self acceptance, and women. We’ve been desiring to start a magazine, leaning more towards the counter-culture side of beauty. precisely because of issues like this. gaaa… it’s supposed to be my little big secret. but now it’s out on WordPress because of your post! :)) i guess I’m wondering if there’s anyone who wants to join us start something like a movement of sorts. haha. crazy thoughts… and oh yes, you’re beautiful the way you are. 😉 cheers!


  6. anawnimiss says:

    I’m Indian, and can completely relate to what you’re saying about fairness creams. And what’s worse, if you are fair, you’re still too tall/short or fat/skinny. You never feel good enough, thanks for advertising.
    The truth is, you’re beautiful anyway. Eye of the beholder, remember?

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