Last Friday, when I was still in the hospital, I spent a lot of time just browsing through the WordPress Reader on my phone. While reading, liking, commenting and looking for new blogs, a photo of Lupita Nyong’o showed up. She was on the cover of People magazine as she was named #1 in the 50 Most Beautiful list. I like her so I clicked the article right away. It was posted by Jane Lorraine on her blog Honoring our HAIRitage. These words from her post struck me:
Magazine covers and other major media outlets play a huge role in influencing how we all think about beauty and what beauty looks like. Traditionally, those same major media outlets have not recognized African American women’s beauty. My hope is that People magazine continues to recognize women of color for their beauty, talents & compassion and use their massive platform to contribute to redefining beauty standards.
On my way home from Manila, I saw this large billboard…
I felt embarrassed and guilty at the same time. I felt embarrassed because these kinds of soap are very common in the Philippines which means a lot of Filipinas want whiter skin. I felt guilty because I’m using one (not the same product though. Haha). It’s not that I’m not satisfied with my color. People just say I’m getting “prettier” when the soap has kinda taken effect… but what really is the standard of beauty?
My skin color is not even on my short list of insecurities which includes:
- My weight. I don’t really wanna be skinny but sometimes, I want to experience not being chubby.
- My “double-chin”. I feel like my face is bigger than my body.
- My hair. I always have it rebonded or relaxed because if I haven’t for a long time, it would look like I didn’t comb it. I would rather have sexy curls. Hihi.
It’s actually unreasonable to complain about these things but I dunno why I still do sometimes. Maybe it’s the media? Where you see more attractive showbiz personalities than talented ones? Maybe it’s the people around me? Well, I don’t think so… I even have a gorgeous boyfriend who makes me feel I’m prettier than celebrities. *kilig*
I came across another blog, JackieBeeStrong and saw a post entitled FEAR. I don’t have a problem with the people around me like I said but it reminded me of how I was when I was younger… I also felt I looked like a man or I should lose a little weight because lead singers are supposed to be hot. Why do girls feel unpretty? Back to the question, what is the standard of beauty?
These blog posts helped me uncover and perceive the real meaning of beauty. It’s how you love and carry yourself. It’s your uniqueness and how you make the most of it. It’s your character. Its your smile… and I’m pretty sure you can add more on this list.
Her name is Megan Young, Miss World 2013, who represented the Philippines. She’s half-American but she got the Filipina skin. I just posted her picture because I want to brag about her. Haha. And like her, I am beautiful… and so are YOU (even if you’re a man. Real man.)!
>>>>This is my response to Blogging 101, Day Twelve: Be Inspired by the Community. Please have a look on the blogs that have given me the inspiration to write this! Thank you. 🙂
>>>Daily Prompt: Absolute Beauty