The Great 8: Survival Tips for Long-Distance Relationships

This week, my boyfriend and I celebrated our 4th year anniversary. Yes! That is four years of being together apart. How did we do it? Here are some tips to survive a long-distance relationship.

1. Always communicate. This is pretty obvious and is necessary in every relationship. When I was a kid and my father was working overseas, my mother would wait for my father’s phone call for weeks or she would send a “voice tape” where she would buy a blank cassette tape and would record everything she wanted to say to my father. Today, communication is so much easier and you even have a lot of choices. Video call is our favorite, of course! The only challenge is timezone so make sure you’ll find time to talk to each other even for at least an hour. If you really can’t because of difference in schedule, just leave a Facebook message or an SMS and tell your significant other how your day went. Always make him/her feel that you care.Communicate-LDR

2. Do things together. Who says we can’t have a date? If you run out of things to talk about, then it’s time for you to think of other activities that you can both do at the same time like watch a movie or eat dinner while on Skype. For more ideas, try browsing this long list of activities for LDR couples from this awesome website, Loving from a Distance. Be creative.

Sleep

Exactly how I am every night. If both of us are too tired, we just sleep.

3. Trust is a must. Well, again, duh. But it is indeed a challenge if you’re a thousand miles apart and he/she spends more time with other people. Before anything started, you had an agreement that you’re both into this so stop being paranoid. We might not know what they are doing all the time but just like in a traditional relationship, we should give them enough space.trust

4. Be honest with each other. Along with trust, honesty is what builds a strong relationship. Don’t be afraid to express yourself and tell your partner how you feel. It’s really easy to lie when you’re far apart so don’t do anything that will break his/her trust. Honest

5. Stay committed.  Don’t be ashamed that you are in this kind of relationship so don’t hide it from other people. You are not single. That means you can’t just flirt with anybody. Remain faithful and do numbers 1 – 4. Involvement is different from commitment so if you think you can’t do it for a long time, LDR is not for you. Sorry.commitment

6. Accept what you have. Be happy that you are in a relationship with someone who you truly love and who loves you back. We can’t change the distance but we can change our attitude towards it. We may feel envious of happy couples walking while holding hands at the mall but remember: we are not lonely. There’s someone waiting for us on Skype at home or they are just a dial away.stop whining
7. Set some goals. You should not be an LDR couple forever! Plan on the next time you’ll see each other. Create a timeline and draw an end goal–that is to close the gap. Make sure both of you are in the same direction. While waiting, set some personal goals, too. Right now, I’m trying to learn how to cook so that when we’re finally together, I can do that for him. 🙂 I’m also trying to get fit. 😛

Be motivated!

8. Be optimistic.  Don’t let yourself down and don’t let negative people affect you.The waiting can be painful but you know that there’s the sweetest reward in the end. Just appreciate the little good things like hearing your partner’s voice or receiving something from the mail. You know that it’s worth the wait. 🙂


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20 thoughts on “The Great 8: Survival Tips for Long-Distance Relationships

  1. Kevil says:

    This reminds me of my step-son and my daughter-in-law. They dated for two years in high school then went their separate ways for college (one in Annapolis at the Naveal Academy and the other in Waco at Baylor). After graduation they had a whole 3 weeks in which they got married, honeymooned, and started the next chapter. My son is now an officer on the USS Alabama out of WA and my daughter-in-law is more than half way through medical school at TX Tech in El Paso. They are healthy and happy and have spent a total of about 3 out of 8 years together. To each his own. It only works if you want it to. They have big goals and being apart is a means to the end. Hang in there!

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    • wantaps says:

      Wow! That’s a very inspiring story! Thanks for sharing! It’s nice to hear stories like that. It just proves that LDR works and it will only work if the people involved really want it!

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  2. saremaj says:

    I’m in a sort of LDR…. I only say sort of because I don’t know if it is or not!
    I met my boy where I live (England) and we went to university together, but he’s originally from Northern Ireland, so every 10-12 weeks he goes back home to Ireland for at least a month… because it’s summer he’s just gone home today for 2 and a half months!!
    It completely sucks and almost hurts more each time 😦
    We can get through it together! Sare x

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    • wantaps says:

      Cheer up! My boyfriend and I haven’t seen each other personally for almost two years! Hehe. We can get through this! Each day that passes by is one day closer to be with him again.

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      • saremaj says:

        Wow, I guess I don’t really have any reason to moan then…. It’s just a tough time for me – things have been a bit crap and I don;t really have anyone else!

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      • wantaps says:

        I do understand though. I think what makes it easier for us is that we actually started being in an LDR. Unlike other couples, they are used to being together all the time then when they shift to LDR, it becomes harder for them. How do you communicate while he’s away?

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      • saremaj says:

        Mostly texting because it doesn’t cost. Every so often a Skype. I hate the texting part though… We fall out because me can’t hear tones all the time 😦

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      • wantaps says:

        Are you on different timezones? if not, Skype would really be better especially if both of you are not too busy. Just stay strong, maybe give yourself some “me time” while he’s away..you know, do things that you can’t focus on or do while he’s around…just keep in touch…

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      • saremaj says:

        No he’s not… but I’m teaching all day and he’s quite busy in the evenings/ away on holiday! Just gotta see what happens – this summer is make it or break it! X

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